Ovidiu's World

  If you're not the thinker, then who are you? The thoughts that you're having? Only if you identify yourself with those thoughts. Or the feelings that you're having? Are you the feeling? Some people believe they are [it.]    You might choose to identify yourself with resentment, for example, or any other type of negative sentiment. Therefore, you become entangled in that emotion and your consciousness merges with it. Unless you learn how to separate yourself from the thoughts that you're having or from any unpleasant emotion or state of mind, you can not liberate yourself from suffering.    You'll always live the same dysfunctional pattern, over and over again, until you might start to lose your mind or become depressed. The way out of emotional pain is the dimension of inner stillness — the totality of your consciousness that goes beyond the mind.    When you begin to see that inner light of yours, you gradually learn to differentiate between your tr

As I'm sitting in front of my PC, I noticed that I'm not able to do exactly what I want: to write a small story. There's an inner force that wants me to give up — I have the impression that I'm not gonna be able to write.  I could say that it's a deceptive mechanism of the mind. But somehow I managed to have an idea; letting go of any emotional blockage. At this very moment, the mind comes up with all sorts of irrational scenarios in which I think about myself as being incapable of generating words. It is a feeling of being unable to write while being in a state of flow.  But with great clarity and through the means of my consciousness, I'm able to see how the mind generates nonsense. From now on, I refuse to believe that I'm not able to formulate a concise sentence.  What happens when I'm not buying into the idea of being unable to achieve a goal? Or any other mind scenario that is limiting my potential? I slowly begin to let go of any dysfunctional pat

True listening is a fundamental life skill — if you don't have it, you won't be able to understand people and what motivates them. How are you going to learn about people's desires if you're unwilling to listen?  Those who struggle to listen are too concerned with themselves. They're too much in their heads or they think of themselves as being more interesting than other people. That couldn't be further from the truth — all people are interesting because they have their own stories.  All people have something to say about their lives. All it takes is the willingness to listen. That is how you learn more about your fellow human being: by developing the capacity to listen carefully about anything the other person has to say.  I had an enjoyable moment with a client at my job. He came to Romania from Holland. As he started to talk, he open himself up to me and told me his story. After a while, I noticed that people love to talk about their lives. He revealed to me

The only way you can beat social anxiety is by getting a job in a restaurant — it forces you to interact with lots of people until you get comfortable around them. It is crucial to do the things that you're afraid of.  I've been socially anxious and awkward my whole life and I believed that I'll never be able to become "normal."  If you have a friend with a similar problem or someone that can accompany you, go out together and challenge yourselves to talk with strangers. Go to a mall and strike up a conversation no matter how anxious you're getting. You don't have to be worried about the reactions of other people; the majority of them are kind and they are willing to help.  Remember that in the end, your progress is the only thing that matters: if you're not learning the game of socialization, you won't be having a meaningful life. You won't understand other people. You won't be able to get a good job, or if you will, it will be hard to kee

If you're an addict, you have to understand what's behind your addiction: a reservoir of emotional pain.  What's bizarre about addiction is that you are not fully conscious of the pain involved — your subconscious mind is operating through a lot of emotional pain. The reason you're a sugar addict or addicted to any other substance? You're seeking relief from that emotional pain. You want to be at ease with yourself. You want to feel balanced so you eat a lot of junk food or take a harmful substance. Then you might ask: "Why the pain?" It all stems from your childhood trauma. You were traumatized as a kid by not having all of your needs met, including your emotional ones. The cure for your addictions is only through pain. Here's what Eckhart Tolle has to say about addiction: Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you are addic

It may not appear to be a great approach to writing, but when you're not trying to force things or bring an element of perfectionism to your writing style, you'll soon write like a pro. I always tell myself to let the mind take over when I'm writing, without adding useless layers to it. It's all about writing without limitations. I noticed that when I'm not plagued by the grip of writing in a perfect manner, I can write clearly. And that should be my goal — to form various ideas without having the need to impress anyone, not even myself. Patience has its importance; you wait as long as it takes until you come up with a beautiful sentence.